Originally Answered: my breast milk never came in?
As long as milk comes out of your nipples (even a few drops), you're fine. I was the same way. My breasts never got really big during pregnancy, and I never really got engorged. I also never felt let down. Pumping is not a good way to see if you have milk. A lot of women don't let down to a pump. Your body knows the difference between a pump and a real baby.
Keep trying to get your baby to latch on. Contact LLL, and have them come over to your home and help you with the baby.
Stay as close to the baby as you can. Sleep with her, and spend all day in bed with her. Have someone help with meals, and housework, and don't worry about anything else but your baby.
Try taking a bath with her. Sit in the tub, have hubby, or someone hand her to you, and just sit there. You may be surprised, that alone may encourage her to latch on. If you spend enough time with her, with your breasts exposed, she will eventuall latch.
If you want to boost your supply, drink lots and lots of water, eat well, and you can try taking Fenugreek and blessed thistle capsules. I think you ned to take six of each a day, if I'm not mistaken.
If all else fails, and you have a low milk supply, there is also a medication that increases milk supply. It's called domperidone, and it's safe for the baby.
However the best you can do, is keep nursing, and stay close to your baby. You can do this. Don't let anyone convince you have no milk.
I never got engorged, never felt letdown, never leaked, yet I'm still nursing my 10month old daughter. Nurse as often as she wants. Take every little cry for hunger, and keep putting her to your breasts as often as she needs.
Best of luck to you, and congratulations.