Originally Answered: What is your perspective on eating disorders? (long survey)?
What do you think is the media’s picture of the perfect body?
Stick skinny, with either big boobs or a big butt. A tan.
Who is portrayed to have a desirable body?
Angelina Jolie, Jessica Alba, anyone a size 2 or under.
Do media messages affect both men and women? Are the effects the same or different? It affects men by having them have unrealistic perceptions on what most women look like and what women SHOULD look like. It also makes them treat women like objects. Women never feel good enough, stress more, find their worth in things other than their creator and sometimes even kill themselves trying to feel beautiful.
How do you feel about yourself when you watch TV/Movies? Most of the time, bad honestly. I sometimes catch myself making a list in my head of all the things I can do to make myself more attractive. (excersize, tan, get this makeup, dye my hair, etc)
What does your family say about body image/eating habits? They are VERY weight-conscious and treat the skinny women better and talk about them better behind their backs. Skinny=love. I think they even see it as a moral issue. They love when I am stick thin rather than normal. It's a good thing I try not to listen to them on reflex. They are seriously messed up about a lot of things.
What do you think should be the churches response to people with eating disorders? I think they should do what Christ would have done and love them unconditionally and help them get support for the underlying emotional and mental issues causing the disorder. It's just a physical sign of what's hurting them inside. People with those disorders are people pleasers. Judging them would just hurt them more. They are just trying to please and get their lives under control.
What doses the Bible say about body image? I think it emphasizes inner beauty over charm and prettiness (Provers..beauty is fleeting, etc). I think it tells us to serve others and find our worth and identities in Jesus and living for him. Finding our worth in a thin body is never going to work...your body will fail you. I think a Biblical view would support this. Focus on things that last, and only care what God thinks of you.
Would you want someone in the Church to hold you accountable in this area? I would like encouragement. I think that's the most effective tool for people in the church.
Do others think you are beautiful?
I don't know.
Sometimes. Definitely not today.
How old are you?
If applicable, please explain your struggle with eating/food/body image.
I've dieting before, but now I've stopped bc I realize it just hurts me to focus on that. I'm in the process of accepting myself at 5'3'' and 125 pounds. If I can't be happy there, I never will be.
When/how did this start?
17, when a boy told me I was fat.
Have you ever been afraid of food?
When I lost weight at 17, I was intensely afraid of carbs and gaining it back.
Do you counted calories? If so how often?
I used to, but it didn't stick.
Would you describe your eating habits as disordered?
No, I don't have an eating disorder. I eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full.
Has it ever been hard for you to eat around people?
Explain a time when you thought of or got rid of food you had eaten by throwing-up or taking laxatives. What were you feeling/thinking? One time I did throw it up, years ago. Then I found out that you only lose 13 percent of the calories you take in. SO not worth throwing up.
How many others do you know that struggle with eating/food/body image? A fair few. 5 or 6. Do you talk with them about your struggle? No. What do they say? They talk to me about theirs and I just try to listen and tell them a few medical facts where applicable.
What has been the church’s response to your situation? Umm. I love Jesus, but I gotta tell you, I don't like how I feel as a woman when I have to go to church. I feel like you have to be the thin, cookie-cutter, submissive, wet blanket, stupid, future holder of an MRS degree. I'm not knocking sweet mothers and wives. I just don't fit the mold. I have a strong personality, big hips, sarcasm, a love for literature and an independent streak. I've never fit in at church, although I've tried. I just gave up. Nobody acts like themselves there anyway. The church's response seems to just try to make everyone a clone. So in this situation I think they would go with the majority opinion in each church and judgementally act accordingly. I knew a girl once who said her church said she was sinning by being an anorexic by "not eating the food God gave her." It's not their faults. That's f'ed up.
What has been most beneficial treatment? I think therapy, acceptance, NOT COMMENTING ON A WOMAN'S WEIGHT WHETHER GOOD OR BAD, encouragement and relying on God can help. I also think distancing yourself from certain media can do wonders. Women's magazines in particular need to go away.
I like these questions :)