Originally Answered: virginity - what age is appropriate for loosing it? Am i waiting too long?
Yes, boys will dump you if you don't put out, but those are hardly the men you need if you want a serious, caring, commited relationship. Not the difference: boys versus men.
In religious terms, it isn't the age but the relationship that determines when to lose your virginity. The standard religious answer is when you get married. And whether the psychology types will admit it or not, there are some darn good reasons to wait until marriage. Unfortunately, we live in a society where waiting that long is often thought "weird," and the psych types seem more concerned with how you feel about yourself than your actual mental and emotional well-being.
The World is full of "men" who will tell you that they love and care for you so much that sex is the obvious next level in the relationship. "Friends" will apply peer pressure not because they are right, but getting you to do what they do helps them feel better about themselves. But, sex is powerful and far more intimate than modern society admits. In it there is both great joy and intimacy, but also great danger.
If I were you, I would wait at least until I was in a serious, commited relationship, preferably married, at least engaged, before "losing" my virginity. There are lots of years of experience in that opinion, including many years of dealing with young women in particular who have suffered seriously because of the sexual relationships they've had. Many would tell you that no, they didn't suffer, but when you look at them relative to the ones who didn't have sex, the hurt of a broken relationship is deeper once you cross that barrier, because sex is that powerful, that intimate.
Society will try to teach you that sex can be casual, that it is a fun thing to do with the odd stranger who turns you on, etc., but beware! Anyone you have sex with you develop a bond with, and denying that bond, treating sex as just another fun exercise, dehumanizes you and them.
So, try to wait until marriage. And for both sex and marriage try to wait until you are emotionally mature and stable enough to take disappointments, hardships and such in stride. Yes, you'll get hurt, but being hurt is one of those unfortunate facts of life. Being mature enough to deal with them with relative calm means you can take a relationship through the hard parts and not always have it fall apart just because it is hard.